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conversation with a friend. i know i'm not the right person to judge or giving my opinion. because i'm not expert ... what i can give is a blunt statement.

me: let me ask you this ... does he pick you up? at home? at the office?
her: no .. we met somewhere, why would he come to my office?
me: well, what i can say this man is a bastard! that's for sure. sorry for that ... but i can tell he's a player thou ...
her: how could you have that judgement, you don't even know him!
me: oohh c'mon ... don't get carried away with your own feeling over this man. love is blind i know it for sure! but, you need to understand the situation that you're dealing here. don't put those denial and defensive form over your feeling for this man! it won't make him change his mind! he's not in to you ... i can tell!
her: you're so rude! how could you ... the signs is there, he has feeling for me, it just that he got this issue that he needs to take care before making any commitment with me ... you don't know him! from the very start i'm talking about him you already hate him! you're so cynical when i told you about this man!
me: i'm not being rude! i'm just putting myself into his shoes. i'm surrounded  by all male friends, and for them there's no mixed messages. if he likes you, you can tell by his action ... i can't tell you how, but you just know it! trust me ... i just don't want to see you get disappointed by your own expectation! females have thousands answers for their doubts and most of it is all what they want to hear ... c'mon it only happens in the movies!
her: but you don't know him! how can you tell that he is a jerk without knowing him!! -- my friend already get pissed by my statement 
me: you told me everything about him ... i don't need to know him to know that he's a jerk! i can tell ... based on your story. Now, answer my questions ... and be honest, don't try to defend him it's between us! even thou i know that most of your answer will be no .. but let me ask you the simplest question to defend my statement over him .. how's that?
her: *sigh* ... ask me. I can proof you wrong!
me: does he ever called you? or he just communicate with you through text by whatsapp or bbm?
her: well, most of the time is whatsapp ...
me: *nodding* i bet he's to busy to dial your number right? *nodding again*
       does he look for you when you got missing? 
her: i look for him ... i texted him.
me: does he ever pick you up at your home?
her: i don't want my parents to ask about him ... so we meet at the place at somewhere.
me: well, he is your friend right? is not that your parents going to ask him to marry you right away, they should know with who you hang out with right? any girls would love to have a man pick her up at home... am i right?
her: for me .. at this stage i don't want him to pick me up at home.
me: whose paying for your dinner or lunch date?
her: we share ...
me: *nodding again* does he wait for you?
her: i wait for him, he's the one who always work late
me: does he ever over you a ride home?
her: i'm driving my own car, and he's taking a taxi
me: he can drive you home first, and get a taxi from your place right? 
her: *silence...*
me: for me is clear enough! i'm stick in to my gun ... he's a bastard! 
her: *silence and continue drinking her green tea latte*

is all clear! men are simple, they don't know the definition of mixed messages. if they want it they will make it happens! as simple as that! don't ruin your life with some jerk who tried to play with your feeling and making you an option! you should ask yourself "what's in it for you" ... i'm not saying all men are bastard some men are born to be shy, but when men like you, you can tell right away by experience his action to you! respect yourself ... be gentle with your feeling, don't lower down your pride to win over your feeling

you deserve better man to treat you as a lady not an option!