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"lots of men treat us special, but a second later we're nobody to him.... act like they don't wanna let go of us, but don't wanna be attached to us too. lots of men don't wanna loose his 'fans' and loose the attention. lots of men choose to stay in their safe zone.... and their safest zone turns out to be what we called grey area... between yes and no, between stay and go, between dead and grow... loving then leaving... saying something then doing nothing... giving it up but keep trying... this kind of "love" that promising but has no aim, comforting but has no point... AND HE'LL KEEP DOING THIS... COMING AND COMING FOR YOU JUST FOR MAKING THE EMPTINESS STARTS ALL OVER AGAIN..."

komentar diatas gw dapat dari salah satu blog teman gw, dari temannya yang juga seorang penulis. Untuk bahasan mengenai the decision of leaving the guy that she had crush on ... she's willing to let all the feeling gone based on her sudden feeling when they were together. Is just like "sound from your heart" that telling you to let go... She said, she heard something telling her "He's not right, he's not the person that you want to be with at the end."

Well...at least she has the strength to listen to her own voice in her heart instead of keeping herself stagnant in a position that she can even imagine what would it be when I move on ...

Banyak sekarang emang cowok-cowok yang suka memberikan amunisinya untuk bisa "menjebak" para wanita dengan perhatian dan sanjungan yang suatu saat akan hilang. Seperti beberapa waktu lalu gw membicarakan topik ini sama salah satu teman gw yang lagi dekat dengan seorang lelaki. Baru kenal sih mereka...sebelumnya (katanya) mereka tetanggaan. Tapi ya lelaki itu sangat "manis dan mendayu-dayu" kalo bahasa gw sih bilangnya...Kalo SMS maupun nelepon ya manis gitu deh...dan (mungkin) lelaki itu ingin mencoba menanamkan suatu "kebiasaan" di hari-hari teman gw itu untuk hal tersebut, hingga suatu saat jika lelaki itu menghilang teman gw akan mencari dan memulai kebiasaan itu dari pihak teman gw...

Ya gw berharap semoga teman-teman wanita gw dan lelaki-lelaki yang ada di dekatnya, bisa jujur terhadap diri sendiri, tidak membohongi orang lain dan diri sendiri, bangga dengan diri sendiri dan tidak memfitnah orang untuk suatu pembenaran diri yang sebetulnya tidak perlu di benarkan.

Intinya, boleh kita membela perasaan kita, tapi tidak untuk menyakiti, merugikan dan memfitnah orang lain!


* Thank you for the good comment from Titien (thank you to Dwita who shared it with me)