.. keeper ..

It's best to wait for the one you want than settle for the one available.
Best to wait for the one you love than one who's around.
Best to wait for the right one because life's too short to be wasted on just someone.

"An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye."
Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs.

Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that important. Once you decide to commit to someone, over time, their flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious.

If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn how to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you.

You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to share a life together.

Neither one of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best in each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other?

What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain? You can't take someone to the altar to alter them.
You can't make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life" you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain.

What keeps a relationship strong?
* communication
* intimacy
* a sense of humor
* sharing household tasks
* some getaway time without business or children
* daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a
note)
* sharing common goals and interests
* giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure
* giving each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment (and stick to it!)

If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty and pain replace the passion.
"As long as we have memories, yesterday remains. As long as we have hope, tomorrow awaits. As long as we have friendship, today is beautiful."

Love is when you take away the feeling, the passion, and the romance in a relationship and find out that you still care for that person.

.. beautiful liar ..

Nobody likes being played

I know things about 'em that you wouldn't wanna read about
Beautiful Liar, tell me how you tolerate the things that you just found out about

You never know why are we the ones who suffer
I have to let go he won't be the one to cry

Let's not kill the karma
Let's not start a fight
It's not worth the drama
For a beautiful liar
Can't we laugh about it
It's not worth our time
We can live without 'em
Just a beautiful liar

I trusted him, but when I followed you, I saw you together I didn't know about you then 'till I saw you with her
I walked in on your love scene, slow dancing
You stole everything, how can you say I did you wrong .. how come?

You never know when the pain and heartbreak's over
I have to let go the innocence is gone

Tell me how to forgive you when it's me who's ashamed and I wish could free you
Of the hurt and the pain; But the answer is simple he's the one to blame

(Beyonce Knowles)

.. single ladies ..

I'm in this fight and I'm swinging and my arms are getting tired
I'm trying to beat this emptiness but I'm running out of time
I'm sinking in the sand and I can't barely stand
I'm lost in this dream
I'm scared of lonely

I try to be patient but I'm hurting deep inside
And I can't keep waiting, I need comfort late at night
And I can't find my way, won't you lead me home?

I'm scared of lonely
And I'm scared of being the only shadow I see along a wall
And I'm scared of the only heart beat I hear beating is my own
And I'm scared of being alone, I can't seem to breathe
When I am lost in this dream

To wipe away these tears of mine so I hold my pillow tight

I need your break when nobody is around
'Cause I'm tired of this emptiness
I think I'm drowning, I can't be lonely

(Scared of Lonely - Beyonce Knowles)